Harnessing the Power of Anger
- Dipti Pandey
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Anger is often perceived as a negative emotion, and in that it becomes the most misunderstood one, as we tend to look at anger as awful, aggressive, and explosive. We often associate it with being out of control and seething with violence.
When we are angry our bodies give us some signals like headache, hot flashes, hyperventilation, feeling fidgety, racing heartbeat are some of the physical reactions that happen in our bodies. The discomfits that anger arises in us do not help remove the negative label, but emphasize it instead.
Two Common Ways We Handle Anger
When we are angry, we react in two ways to face it-
- We are hijacked by it – we let it drive us, respond aggressively, and must bear unwanted consequences
- Brush it way without addressing it – we bury it down in psyche and let it exhibit into different emotional/psychological problems and physical illnesses
What happens in each of these situations is worth an examination
When Hijacked by Anger
Violent anger can lead to impulsive behaviors, saying the wrong things, or taking actions we regret later. It can ruin relationships, cause unnecessary brawls, and much worse. When we let this emotion hijack, us, our attention becomes constricted, and we lose objectivity. This causes interference and hampers open-minded thinking, imperative to find creative solutions.
You can’t sustain such anger for more than a few minutes before you start to feel completely depleted. Additionally, we lose rationality and kindness, eventually ending up in embarrassment especially if misdirected, it inflames a part of us while deteriorating healthy attitude, it isolates us, which is an extremely heavy price to pay!
When Anger goes Unexpressed or is Buried
Buried anger manifests into many physical symptoms. You open an invitation to the below medical conditions
- Chronic headache
- Digestion problems such as abdominal pain.
- insomnia
- Increased anxiety
- Depression
- High blood pressure
- certain skin problems
- Heart attack
- Hypertension
The Raw Power of Anger
The focus has been on the detriments of anger, but if we contemplate deeper, it is an instant power source.
- Anger is like a fire you don’t want to let loose, but cannot capture it
- It is one of the strongest emotions which we experience, and it provides us with motivation power push and drive to deal with the situation
- The outcome of anger is not passive, often it results in us taking an action in response to this emotion
- Anger evokes our passionate side much more easily than any other emotion
- Anger at its worst can be extremely destructive and troublesome
- It becomes a big hindrance in thinking straight and taking decisions sensibly
- Anger helps us handle emergency situations by providing a quick burst of energy and strength, so that we react to the threats of danger
- Anger pushes us to reach goals by creating motivation through frustration
Positive Sides of Anger
While anger can be fiery and violent on one hand, it can very productive and effective on the other. It can be used as an asset, a creative tool. Anger at its best can be a huge motivation and drive for success, and its power can be harnessed into some positive outcomes.
- If we did not feel angry, social change would not take place. Nobody would stand up for injustices and call for a change.
- Unleashing the energy of anger can help complete projects as it can inspire a passion with a thrust.
- Anger towards yourself on procrastinating a health regimen can work as a motivating force to run that extra mile. This force of anger can force you out of laziness and create new goals.
- Have you seen an angry coach turn his underperforming team around and swirl the team to a win? That is positive anger, which motivated the team towards fortitude, dedication, and resolve.
Harnessing the Power of Anger
- Address the emotion – Instead of suppressing anger, considering it as a negative emotion, address it, get to the root, try to find out what really is making you upset. You can also note down the points or instances of the day, which have triggered it. Understand that there is nothing wrong in feeling that emotion. Emotions neither destroys us nor builds us, it’s up to us what we want to do with it.
- Communicate with it – Perceive your anger as an information; explore what it is trying to communicate to you. Try asking some questions. Asking these questions will do these two things- halt you from acting impulsively as a reaction to your anger and put you in charge of your emotions
- Is your anger indicating your aggravation on breach of your personal boundaries?
- Is it caused because someone has disrespected you?
- Are your rights being violated?
- Is this a reaction to an injustice?
- Formulate your response – ask what good can your impulsive reaction bring to solve the situation? Is it solving any problem or adding to the existing problems? Know that it’s a skill to control your anger. Emotion is expressed, but that doesn’t mean that it’s response should get you into some situations that are irreparable. Think from the point of view of solving the issue. You will be in control, and so will be able to respond to this powerful emotion instead of reacting.
Conclusion
Stop avoiding anger, it’s not inherently ugly or dangerous don’t let it make you fall into resignation or cynicism. When you are brave enough to stop and look into its eyes, you can better determine whether to release or use the energy to act productively. Balance your anger with passion for what you want to achieve, hope for a better future, and courage to stand for the life you want to create.