Vibrational Frequency: 20
Emotional State: Disgrace
Life View: Despondent

“Shame interrupts positive feelings, worthlessness, disgrace, regret, or disconnection.”

Shame is a self-conscious emotion and is internalized by the sufferer. It is triggered by insufficiency or failure to meet certain standards. There are also external sources- people or situations that can trigger shame in us.

Shame operates at a dangerously low vibrational frequency of 20, so is the most perilous state of being. Shame leads to self-hatred and self-destructive actions. Dr. Hawkins draws a relationship between this lowest vibration of consciousness to the odds of high criminality. In comparison, a deeply buried shame can be the reasoning behind personality disorders and criminal behaviors. Not all those who feel shame become criminals in the general sense. We will feel shame sometimes in our lives, but those who live continuously with it are in the most danger. Shame evolves in different forms, but all these behavioral patterns are to mask the reality of shame.

Some Effects of Shame

• Avoid committed relationships
• Hiding from the world
• Suppressing emotions
• A feeling of depressions, inadequacy, fretfulness
• Avoid taking calculated risks to improve life
• Addictions
• Blaming self, family, friends
• Falling into toxic relationships
• Acting in destructive ways
• Being cruel to others by causing them to feel ashamed

The psychology of shame goes deep, and the complexity it creates in a human mind can take years of professional counseling and self-evaluation without judgment. Patience and recognition are the keys to solving the issues of pain.

Even though this is the most dangerous of all levels, bringing awareness of one’s shame must be done. Developing shame resistance is the clue to overcoming shame. You can become shame resilient by adopting a few essential habits. Here are some methods to handle shame-

Realize

• Know the shame triggers and acknowledge them
• Be honest with self
• Write them down

Recognize

• Know that you are going through this level
• Analyze the reason behind shame, unravel it
• Share it with somebody you trust
• Write it in your journal

Respond

• Notice your natural reaction
  • Anxiety?
  • Self-harm?
• Recognize the instinct in response to shame
  • It is essential to recognize your patterns of feeling this emotion
• Know that you can change this instinct to a more positive one
• Modify that reaction to a more positive one
  • Know that you are in control
  • A trusted confidant can make a difference
  • Seek professional help

References

Lamia, Mary C. “Shame: A Concealed, Contagious, and Dangerous Emotion.” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, 4 Apr. 2011, www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/intense-emotions-and-strong-feelings/201104/shame-concealed-contagious-and-dangerous-emotion.

Redaelli, Simone. “The Psychology of Shame.” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, 27 Sept. 2020, www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sonnet-freud/202009/the-psychology-shame.